self inflicted

the problem with choice resides in our nature, and in the fact that we can't help wondering how would have everything gone if we had made it differently. choice, by definition, implices an option - you go this or that way. but usually, when you go this way, the other way is locked behind you, and there is no turning back. you can do nothing more but imagine how it would have been. and even if you're given the chance to go back and follow the other way, things are not as they would have been before.

so choice is not really painful. all the suffering from regretting a choice is self inflicted. we are the ones torturing ouselves about what we did and did not.