choices

i remember a situation, a long time ago, when i did something that wasn't obvious. caught in the crossfire between two people (in that case, a couple, being he one of my best friends), i stood by the side of the one i didn't knew (his girlfriend). in other words, i left one of my best friends alone and went after his girlfriend, sat down with her and talked for hours. she knew me for what? two days? something like that, yes. i remember her staring at me, suprised. "why haven't you stayed with him", she asked. "because i know him", i said. "and i can't be of much help there." and it was so true.

i know it wasn't the obvious thing to do, but it worked out pretty well. he came 'round later, they talked, and everything was cool for the rest of the weekend. me and him, we remained as friends as we'd ever been - and she became my friend as well (even after they broke up, which eventually happened some time after that). and yet, this course of action so effective back then did not produce the same results when i put it to pratice again, years after. again, it seemed to me the right thing to do (and to be honest, i don't regret doing it). but this time, i think i've fucked up something. it's just a feeling, for the time being. but a bad feeling.

people are different, so what works once might well fail when we try it again.