being 'alternative' is overrated.
alternative? no. i just want to be myself, and live my life freely as i've lived it so far. and to live freely in my book is to do whatever pleases me in the way that pleases me. even my little routines, like the rice and beans for lunch on saturday or the monthly trip to my little village to have a haircut. it's not a matter of being "alternative", which is yet another stereotype that encompasses so many things. it's not even a matter of being "different" - not in the way you understand the concept of "being different". it's just a matter of being myself, as an individual, not following any crowd or trend just for the sake of it.
your little speech (intended as a joke but meant seriously; i've already caught the way you have to say that kind of things) brought back to my memory a different conversation, one about clothes - and indirectly, about the clothes i wear and the way i dress. i agree that our clothes show pretty much about ourselves, and i'm no exception to that: i don't care much about my outer self, by the way i look, and so i'm quite careless when dressing. irresponsible, even. chaotic, if you prefer. someone hinted in that conversation - never directly, of course - that i don't know how to dress myself. quite right - i don't.
the fact is, apparel is way to overrated. i know that we never get a second chance to cause a first good impression on others, but the fact that most of times that first good impression is purely based in what we're wearing - in prices, brands, style - is rather unfair. i don't care about what i wear - give me some jeans, a plain t-shirt and sneakers and i'm good to go. will someone else be better than me - more intelligent, more interesting, more funny, more stupid, whatever - just because he's wearing trendy clothes? i don't think so. i really don't think so. "but then you can't go to certain places", you tell me. true. i can't. but that's not because of what i (don't) wear - i could adapt myself, and if i don't know how to dress myself smartly, then i could ask a girl friend to help me out on that (lol). i simply don't care to go to a place when they sort people out for what they're wearing, that's all. it's seldom my kind of place. i'm sorry, i'm sorry - i'm the kind of guy who prefers a good pub (where it is allowed to smoke, if you don't mind), with not-too-loud music so people can talk and listen to each other without shouting, and having a beer without giving the right arm for it because they cost basically the same than a complete lunch on my usual restaurant. it's not that i will never break a little. but it won't be something that will thrill me.
so you see, i'm not alternative, not in any way. the so-called "alternative" people seek out to be different - visually speaking - so they can stand out. it's just another kind of self-affirmation by what they look like. i prefer to have people judge me after they get to know me. it gives me more trouble, right, but allows me to get rid of those i don't care to know - the ones who will stick to the first glance they take at me.
your little speech (intended as a joke but meant seriously; i've already caught the way you have to say that kind of things) brought back to my memory a different conversation, one about clothes - and indirectly, about the clothes i wear and the way i dress. i agree that our clothes show pretty much about ourselves, and i'm no exception to that: i don't care much about my outer self, by the way i look, and so i'm quite careless when dressing. irresponsible, even. chaotic, if you prefer. someone hinted in that conversation - never directly, of course - that i don't know how to dress myself. quite right - i don't.
the fact is, apparel is way to overrated. i know that we never get a second chance to cause a first good impression on others, but the fact that most of times that first good impression is purely based in what we're wearing - in prices, brands, style - is rather unfair. i don't care about what i wear - give me some jeans, a plain t-shirt and sneakers and i'm good to go. will someone else be better than me - more intelligent, more interesting, more funny, more stupid, whatever - just because he's wearing trendy clothes? i don't think so. i really don't think so. "but then you can't go to certain places", you tell me. true. i can't. but that's not because of what i (don't) wear - i could adapt myself, and if i don't know how to dress myself smartly, then i could ask a girl friend to help me out on that (lol). i simply don't care to go to a place when they sort people out for what they're wearing, that's all. it's seldom my kind of place. i'm sorry, i'm sorry - i'm the kind of guy who prefers a good pub (where it is allowed to smoke, if you don't mind), with not-too-loud music so people can talk and listen to each other without shouting, and having a beer without giving the right arm for it because they cost basically the same than a complete lunch on my usual restaurant. it's not that i will never break a little. but it won't be something that will thrill me.
so you see, i'm not alternative, not in any way. the so-called "alternative" people seek out to be different - visually speaking - so they can stand out. it's just another kind of self-affirmation by what they look like. i prefer to have people judge me after they get to know me. it gives me more trouble, right, but allows me to get rid of those i don't care to know - the ones who will stick to the first glance they take at me.
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It might act as a people filter. If you were all fine and dandy, you'd attract all sorts of people and most of them wouldn't even matter. So way to go :D
By the way, I think you dress fine. Kind of dark and stuff, but perfectly fine. You're not a 'sheep' and that's great :)
No, I'm not a sheep. Except for my hair if I spend three months without going to my barbershop... lol.
I don't always dress in black. My wardrobe actually has some orange, some bright blues and even yellow, now that i think of it. I simply don't care about what I wear. Or rather, I don't care much about myself. I don't think that's what truly counts.
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