to nullify

don't ever tell anybody anything. if you do, you start missing everybody.

j.d. salinger, the catcher in the rye

you nullify someone everytime you expose yourself. you have enough confidence, enough.... intimacy to share yourself with someone else. but that's not the way it is supposed to be. if someone is so close to you, that someone would figure it out - at once, by sheer revelation, or step by step, slowing getting close to the revelation that you are. you skip that discovery in a desperate attempt to have someone to reach you, and you're denying that person access to your inner self. that person have never reached you; what you merely did was, you took all the pieces of yourself, spread them over the table and gave'em a shape, assembling the puzzle and therefore revealing the whole picture.

in the end, it is a double bind. the discovery you needed will never happen. the person to whom you exposed your inner puzzle is nullified.