Meant to be?
It's is a matter of convenience, only: sometimes we chose to believe in our free will (I am the master of my choices, and thus the master of my fate) to justify what happens to us. And sometimes we say "it was meant to be that way" for the very same reason. Free will is overrated, and nothing but death is ever meant to be. The bitter truth is, things happen randomly. Not because of us, but in spite of us. In the end, it's all about reality, that concrete wall right in front of us.