filtering

honesty is not something absolute. i mean, one cannot be absolutely honest, absolutely sincere. i know people who consider themselves "sincere" because they always speak their minds, because if something about someone crosses their minds, they tell it to the person in question. just like that, straight away. this is hardly sincerity - it's rather stupidity, if you ask me. one is sincere not by saying everything, but by knowing when and how to say something - for there are somethings that must never be spoken, even if we can't help thinking about them. 

(i think i've written this before somewhere, but i'm too tired to search the post and link it). 

we always filter our thoughts. we doing without thinking about it, but we do it nonetheless. we need it done - i think about myself, and if my mind was to be opened, i'd lose all my friends and be sent to an asylum for psichotic faster than i can say "borderline". we have to filter whatever crosses our mind. now, it depends of the people we interact with. with some people, we should be aware of the filtering; with others, we should be able to unwind a little. what saddens me is, between you and me there should not be so many filters.